I think it's a self-esteem issue.
In general, men seem to get hung up on their virility/power and lose self-esteem when they feel weak.
Women seem to get hung up on their appearance and how they come across to others and lose self-esteem when they feel ugly -- which can include appearance but also "who they are" personality-wise. [Another word for it: "Desirability"]
We can explore why that is, but that's the typical pattern in western culture at least.
I agree that women are far more hung up on their own appearance than responding directly to the complaints of guys; it's the same way with the condition of the home too. (The guy will not care what the house looks like, typically; but the woman will feel embarrassed about letting anyone in while it's a mess... to her, anyway.)
I think good self-esteem allows one to feel desirable and worthwhile regardless of appearance.
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