I've been married for 17 years - to an ENTJ no less! The decision to get married really wasn't that difficult, I was in love and it made 'sense' to me.
Quote:
|
I determined, then, that if we ever married, I was committed to this one for life. And, we married. And, I'm still committed to make this last...unless he ever wants to be with someone else. In other words, it was an internal decision of loyalty...a conscious decision to make it permanent. Because I know of my tendencies, I wait out the rough spots of the marriage, and haven't regretted it. I've become stronger in my commitment and have been rewarded to find that my love for him has grown.
|
I could have written that! I also made that conscious internal decision of loyalty. I think the first 5 years were the hardest and every time we hit a rough spot, I would immediately think 'this is it, I'm bailing!' but once I thought it through I remembered by loyalty decision. Over the years it got easier and I'm so glad I stayed. Yet, I admit that I tend to have a "pro and con being married to him" list filed in my brain somewhere and I refer to it at least monthly.