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Originally Posted by Grayscale
i think this is because ISTPs like to take things one day at a time, and when a concept of such longevity presents itself it is stressful to analyze. for lack of knowing factors to consider for such a long period, we are prone to assuming the worst and feeling a need to "get out" before these often times non-existent circumstances arise.
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I kind of agree. It is kind of the opposite for me, however. What I find stressful is the daily thought of being trapped. It's when I think about the long term - that she is there for me, etc. that I do better.
In a way, I think it is similar for me and my parents. When I was around them, they drove me nuts (they all do, I know). But I was so consumed with wanting to get away that I never looked at the big picture - eventually I would move away, eventually I could see them more on my terms, etc.
In this case, when I find myself going "stuck here", I need to look at the big picture - she hasn't done anything to limit me, not really. I'm being unreasonable, objectively. She supports all of my silly projects, listens to me get all excited about the stupidest things (she has to put up with me talking how incredible have 0.9 degree stepper motors have incredible resolution, and with linear screw motion transfer, I can get resolutions up to 0.00625mm! I mean, common, how is that NOT exciting?)... where was I. Oh yah, she puts up with me, sure, but she also supports me. She goes down to the hardware store with me, takes an interest in what I'm doing, encourages me to do things - will even call around during the day for me if I can't.
I don't talk to her about it a lot, not until I really need something changed (she being the kind of person that would do something about it, being INTJ and all
) because it is mostly my burden. That's where I agree - I don't want to "think" about the future so much, because then the trapped feelings come out... but at the same time, my coping mechanism does look at the big picture.
So, looking at the future = not so good. Looking at the big picture = works very well for me. You could read this as "directly trying to get a handle on what triggers it = bad" and "seperating myself from my emotions to cope = good"
