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Originally Posted by ptgatsby
It can really be summed up when my wife asks me if I'm happy with her. When I really have to answer it, the answer is a resounding yes, but most of the time I don't really have to answer it, or think about it, I just do. In those times, having to take her into account is draining. It's ridiculous there too, because I was doing this when we were dating and living together - for 5 years - and yet, it feels different just because I had to vocalize 'forever'.
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i think this is because ISTPs like to take things one day at a time, and when a concept of such longevity presents itself it is stressful to analyze. for lack of knowing factors to consider for such a long period, we are prone to assuming the worst and feeling a need to "get out" before these often times non-existent circumstances arise.
we may want to be with that person for the rest of our lives, but commitment aside, that is still something that needs to be taken one day at a time. as you say, it's when we start thinking about the fences, or "forever" that we feel burdened. i have become aware of this tendency in myself, and have tried to make an effort to not put up imaginary fences around me, cause when i do i always want to hop them and run away.
