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Old 09-30-2008, 01:51 PM   #12 (permalink)
Xander
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Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
Actually, I'd cry because it hurts, not because I'd "want them back."
It's okay to express emotion, without it being any sort of demand or intellectual statement. It just "is."

I'd cry because I loved them, and now they're gone.

And then I'd get over it and move on with my life.
Yeah well still locked in the whole 'why?' loop on that one.

As far as I've got with my reckoning, regretting their loss is far too close to wishing to rescind it and that's a bad thing.
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Again, I don't necessarily see that. I think fear of death is just part of being human and fearing pain, loss, disability, lack of control, whatever. Why deny it? Why pretend we're invulnerable? It's a lie.
Why try to be just when we know we're capricious? It's a target, not a milestone.
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I do agree that the most spiritual/strong people are those who learn to accept their death -- the fact that everything that has a beginning has an end, that there's a time for it all and then a gracefulness in allowing things to move on -- and thus use that bookend to frame their lives now even more brilliantly.

Death defines life. (see my tag: "Only in silence the word; only in dark the light; only in dying life; bright the hawk's flight on the empty sky.")

You run from death? You'll be running from life too.
Precisely. It just leaves me in awe how life, death and afterlife can always be discussed without anyone daring to raise the possibility (and it is a strong one as far as we can tell) that you just plain stop existing as an individual.
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