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Originally Posted by Mo_(operalover)
Ah, Jeff said it; I hate being told what to do and that got me into a lot of trouble with my ENTx father, and ESTJ grandparents (maternal grandma and paternal grandpa). My ISFx mother also absorbed a lot of my father's 'Army General' tendencies so you can imagine what kind of childhood this SP underwent. In terms of teenage terrorism (stealing family car, smoking, playing truant...) I was a positive saint compared to my xSTP and ENTP elder half-brothers but they still say I gave them the hardest time simply because I quietly did what I wanted when I wanted to.
Because of the 'I', they assume us to be more passive and it poses even more of a shock for them when we 'rebel' against the agenda they've set out for us.
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Wow. I could've written this same stuff. Only I never exhibited any typical outward signs of rebellion. I just quietly did my own thing regardles of what I was expected to do by others. As a teenager, I was a sneak rather than a rebel, but I never felt the need to prove rebellion to anyone (and hence never smoked, never wore shock-value clothing, never committed any crimes, never did drugs and never did anything rash just to make a point).
To this day, if anyone tries to tell me what I "ought" to do, my immediate impulse is to stonewall them. If I end up doing what they suggest, then I try to make it clear to them that it's not their telling me what to do that influenced me.
I wasn't spoiled as a kid, and fortunately I had wise parents who didn't issue orders like drill seargants. So that probably saved me from making a lot of bad decisions just so that I didn't have to feel obliged to be obedient.
Sarah
ISFP