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Originally Posted by alicia91
he believes that this is all a crock and that it's basically just me being a control-freak. He says I grew up stubborn and spoiled because my parents let me do as I pleased, now that I'm older I refuse to cooperate with other's agendas (unless I am in agreement) because of this.
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What is your response to this? Do you think you
were spoilt?
It's amusing that he calls you stubborn, yet reserves the right to insist you do things his way and won't consider alternative explanations
Can you think of times when you have cooperated even when you didn't like it?
At first glance, I recognized this as unhealthy ENTJ style projection, where in fact it's they who are stubborn control freaks with relentless agendas, but they make out it's you. One of my ENTJ's went through a phase like that... took a lot of working through but he's great now.
It looks to me like you're trying to think rationally about the situation and find solutions, whilst he's just insisting 'my way or the highway'. But without more information I couldn't say whether that's really the case...