Freedom has nothing to do with control. I doubt, since you are an ISTP, that you are controlling at all; but your husband, being a J, doesn't realize that it's possible to not have a specific plan in mind ahead of time. While he's trying to go through with his plan and you interrupt him by suggesting another something you could do, if it doesn't fit into his plan, he will react negatively to your idea. He sees it as though you are trying to take control of his plan.
My dad is an STJ, and I know that when he's doing something that he has planned out, I follow his plan, and only suggest a change when I feel it's really necessary, or if I can get away with it easily enough.
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