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Old 09-17-2008, 10:13 PM   #5 (permalink)
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do I have it?
hell yes.
suffer with it?
hell no!

I indulge it at every opportunity

I used to somehow think that there was something wrong with just liking to travel and explore. I let people talk me into thinking that it was all about wanting to run away from problems or avoid commitment.

It's only fairly recently that I've come to realize that it's a totally valid part of who I am, and that my choice is to either embrace it or live with all the side effects of self-repression, including depression, frustration, restlessness and dissatisfaction with my life generally.

Obviously I can't go to silly proportions like leaving the kids to fend for themselves while I go on a tour of China or something. But the way I deal with it is just to go out for a long drive to someplace new whenever I get a chance, take daytrips and frequent short breaks, camping and stuff, and then once or twice a year take a foreign/long distance vacation.

I used to think that my wanderlust was behind my not being able to keep longterm relationships going, but in fact it wasn't that... it was more that it was the wrong person... anyone I'm going to be with longterm needs to accept that this is a part of me and not try to guilt trip me about it or try to change it. It's ideal if they're the kind of person who SHARES this tendency, as I like nothing more than travelling with a companion!

The only times I've ever felt unable to keep or commit to something like a job, relationship or whatever, it's been exactly because that thing was limiting TOO MUCH my freedom to explore in my spare time. As long as whatever else in my life either allows, facilitates or joins me in exploring, it can stay in my life indefinitely. But nobody's gonna stick with something that wants to cage them for long.
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