I have them. I used to have quite severe panic attacks. Now they are fairly mild.
My theory is that it's about Fe. The fact that I have an incredible amount of control when the emotion is about me supports the idea that I may be low on Fi.
It is a result of thinking too much about what other people may or may not be thinking. This might explain why it seems to be fairly common for INTPs.
This is my line of reasoning with myself: I'm not doing anything wrong. If this person is misinterpreting my behavior, there's really not a whole lot I can do about it, so there is no reason to worry about it. This person does not know me. I can't read his or her mind.
Basically you have to allow yourself to be cool with unintentionally emotionally hurting other people with your behavior. At least that's the way it works for me. I'm working on a completely different approach which is much more interesting. I'll post if it works.
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