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Originally Posted by Snail
I think the I/E thing can be very important to some people. I know an INFJ who will only consider other introverts. It is the most important quality she seeks in a mate. Also, the relationship I just mentioned worked partly because of the I/E difference, where the girl's extraversion made her assertive enough and social enough to be just what the introverted guy needed.
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i agree. i think it could mean a lot. i think if i dated an extroverted chick i may find the overall bubbliness level too much to take. dating an introvert can be a nice contrast, given that you both respect these differences.
anyways, i think there's a lot to be said about snail's observation on pushing your partner to be identical if you are similar. what keirsey's theory is saying is basically that opposites attract but you don't want to be so different that you can't communicate at all. makes sense i guess.
more specifically on this pairing though, could it be that the INTP, despite being somewhat disconnected from society enjoy watching the ENFJ helping everyone? INTP's can be pessimistic due to their wanting to be 'realistic'. ENFJ's are typically still pretty bright so they can answer the INTP's questions with reason while being contrastingly positive at the same time. if this is true, i can see why the INTP could be attracted to the ENFJ.