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Old 08-27-2008, 02:06 AM   #102 (permalink)
Anja
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Originally Posted by Cality View Post
What kind of harassment? I don't really feel harassed when I walk through the streets. Maybe I just pay attention to where I go and when it happens, it's usually young occupationsless guys who say "hey, you're pretty" as they say to any thing that looks a little feminine (or when homeless just bet for money).
When it ever happens, I just ignore them, even if they insist. I try to walk assured and not to look unsure or scared. I make my face look extremly cold and unfriendly. It works so far. Some of my friend say it's better to say hi in this case, because the guys are supposed to do less harm to you if you are polite. I never managed to. I am not harassed, maybe slightly more when I am in Paris... not too much though. Why? Have you or friends been harassed here in France? I was more harassed in Belgium.
Thanks for answering my question, Cality. I think you provided some good tips for women. Looking assured, unfriendly.

I hadn't meant to single France out. I saw your location and wondered how things were there for women in public.

In Mexico those kinds of incidents increased for me if my husband wasn't with me. I was quite surprised by it because in the area I live that kind of cat-calling has nearly been eliminated. There have been a few times I've actually been touched on the street there.

But the intention truly did seem more festive and obligatory on the men's part than it has for me in the States. Not to excuse it, because I don't care for that kind of attention. Yet it seemed more friendly in intent than it does here.
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