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Originally Posted by Geoff
Anyway, good books worth a read. And my point? (Guess I ought to have one)... for early children give them certainty.. and later let them have the walls you have built knocked over or graffiti'd on, but they must start with lies to children to build a coherent workable world for you to discuss with them later.
Or, a short summary, kids can't run before they can walk!
-Geoff
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That sounds really interesting. I'll look into those books. This makes so much sense to me, and I'm glad to see it explained neutrally. I often feel torn between "lying to children" and giving them the tools they need to learn for themselves as they are hard-wired to do. I wish that I could lighten up and not feel like I have to explain everything to such detail.
Part of the problem here is that I became a mother when I was pretty young (I had my daughter at 23) and I hadn't really worked out what *I* thought about these things yet. I still haven't, but I'm much more comfortable with the ambiguities now. So, in a way, we're learning together. I can't in good conscience set myself up as a wise sage with all the answers when I'm really just figuring things out too!