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Originally Posted by wedekit
My parents used to verbally fight a lot over the smallest things. They were of course fighting with each other, but sometimes the fights would stem from me. I didn't really realize at the time that they were just wanting to fight with each other, and that I was just the excuse, not the real reason. Sometimes I would just ask for my week's worth of lunch money, and my parents would find some way to fight about that ("I gave him lunch money last week. It's your turn!" etc.). It got to the point where I was afraid to ask for things when they were in the room together. The spontaneity of their fights scared the hell out of me. I think that's one of the reasons I became so sensitive to negative reactions and tension, and now I have learned how to defuse it quickly.
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My parents were the same way when I was growing up. When they got divorced, it only got worse. Every purchase that would require them to work together & both pitch in money ended up with me talking between the two of them and a screaming match between them once they finally talked face to face. I have a deep fear of asking my parents for anything financial and blamed myself a lot for their fights since *I* was the one who needed school clothes...
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I can relate.