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Originally Posted by Ivy
I don't have any advice for you, I just want to say that I have this problem too. Even now, as I write this, I'm anticipating your positive reaction to me commiserating with you.
Bad psyche! Bad! Bad!
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Right. It's like an underlying feeling in everything that I do. There's this thought that I'm doing it for them, whether or not I actually am.
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Originally Posted by Dana
I'm curious.. maybe you have a tendency to not like people and to not value them, and you are projecting it onto others?
Because, I tend to like most people and value them for what they do offer and represent as an individual, and I don't have a (prominent) fear of being disliked or undervalued.
I'm thinking there is a line that can be drawn.
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I notice it goes the other way. When I'm calm inside, I can stop all the judgmentalism that overruns my perception. I get this somewhat from my dad, who's a supersuper cynical attorney. I think it comes from a need to elevate one's self by pushing others down, again, to establish inner worth. But I'm not sure.