It sounds like a root fear of failure.
Social rejection and/or feeling like an outcast isn't always a bad thing. People don't reject as quickly as you presume. Most just want to fit-in.
Obsessive/Compulsive behaviors probably coincide. A fear of being "ugly" or physically maladroit, too.
As I said earlier, you aren't your anxiety. Perfectionism and fear are synonyms. Try to relax your personal expectations. I'd recommend Tonglen, but you're presently studying Buddhist philosophy, anyway.
We aren't what we fear, Edahn.
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