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Originally Posted by Angry Ayrab
Do they really just not approach, or do you push them away after they do? Also, do you judge people too quickly and label them as idiots before they have a chance to show the real them... I got that from my INFJ, but persistance was key.
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Hmm, I kind of struggle with this and can judge quickly. I don’t get approached very often though. This is something I wrote last night after a shitty day (rare thing), it’s quite personal so may not cover any other INTJ’s but it’s how I feel about relationships.
So deep down in a place that I don’t want to acknowledge is something hidden that I know is the honest truth how I feel despite my logical brain saying I shouldn’t. Deep, deep down where no one is allowed is a part of me that believes I have nothing to offer a guy, I don’t mean that in a self deprecating way, I don’t have a problem with self loathing I just don’t know who would be interested in me or why cause I don’t fit the stereotype model of what we’re told a female should be.
I trust my Ni to a fault, 90% of guys I meet are dismissed in 5 minutes, they can be handsome, they can be intelligent, they can be witty, honourable, gentle or kind, even a delightful combination of a few, but I can see the problems instinctively, I’ve tested ignoring my intuition with bad results, it’s proved to be valuable foresight that should be respected and trusted. So they’re dismissed.
What happens when I meet a guy who fits the 10%? I don’t think I have anything to offer him. If he was interested in me, like the real me, I’d have to ask what’s wrong with him? I don’t think/feel that I can be myself, my over analysing kicks in and starts questioning who I am and what he’d want, am I not girly enough, am I too independent, am I too... just me.
Yeesh, that’s too much information!
