Since my verbally abusive episode towards the vacuum cleaner in the early 2000's, I have been trying to be very careful when I am angry. Anger is no excuse to tear someone else down emotionally like that.
Most of the time, driven far enough, I just go dictatorial Te and start barking out "You need to do this" "You should do this" "DO THIS NOW!" "Get off my back!" "Stay away!" etc.
Then cry. (only with husband)
Then silent treatment.
Hot, tempermental anger tends to make me nauseous in the past few years so predictibly I allow myself to get angry like that a lot less. When I feel anger sweeping over me, I have to pause and stop it or else feel sick and what person in their right mind wants to feel sick?
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People understand me so poorly that they don't even understand my complaint about them not understanding me.
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