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Originally Posted by dnivera
How do you become a healthier SJ? Just by reading these posts recently I've discovered those nitpicky stereotypical things that other types don't like about SJs...too task-oriented, tend to micromanage, too focused, etc, and I've tried to be more laid-back and less controlling. But I don't really feel like "myself" when I do that!
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Honestly, I wouldn't use this forum as an accurate reflection of what most SJs are like. If SJs are the majority of the population then I don't have problems with the majority of the population. If I ever find myself having problems with most people then I'd think there's something about myself that needs to change. I'm not saying that I don't have problems with some SJs but usually it's some other issue at work, not their inherent SJness.
SJs who are strongly Si tend to have problems due to a predominance of one function over another, just as any other type that is strongly reliant upon one or two functions tends to have problems with others. I don't automatically assume you fit the stereotypical SJ mold. You may in fact be a very easygoing person. Just because you're an SJ does not automatically make you anal and SJ strengths are basically what keeps society from falling into a tangled morass. I respect and am extremely grateful to the SJ temperament for at least that and many others things that are probably overlooked and undervalued.
If you know you have personal faults that need to be worked on and you want to use MBTI as a starting point then I'd echo what others have already stated.
I think this topic should be started throughout all the type communes. *nudge, nudge*