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Originally Posted by Haphazard
No need to be polite. Most INTJs would readily admit that they're not 'people friendly.' Because, well, they aren't, and we try not to deny the painfully obvious.
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He says that he prefers my method of verbal karate-chop/board-to-the-head when he's being a creep than someone trying to wheedle-coax him through it. I just come out and say, "You're being a horse's rearend" and he responds well to it for some reason.
But then again, he's told me that he requires that kind of feedback because he doesn't always know when he's being callous or jerky. It may be particular to him, I don't know, but the same method worked on my INTP ex-bf. The direct approach.
Not to say that all INTJs need those prompts.
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Originally Posted by Aerithria
I wonder why they kept the J as a consistency and not the N. I agree that sometimes an introverted partner might need an extrovert for balance, but I've always taken that to mean ENFX/INTJ pairings, not ESFJ/INTJ ones.
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I absolutely could NOT see myself with another J function. We get on like a house on fire when we're friends, but romantically? No. Too much push-pull and uncomfortable acquiescence. That's just me though.
Besides the scenario that Heart cited with her parents, I've never seen an ESFJ want to BOTHER with an INTJ, much less an INTJ bother with an ESFJ (who I suspect would general miss the grounded demonstrations and affection prevalent in other SFs or even STs....). N can be cold to cuddle up to. I have an ESFJ female friend who loves STPs, and I see that as having harmonious potential.