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Originally Posted by Kiddo
Any fellow sufferers out there?
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Yes, I suffer.
I have found some ability to overcome the paralysis by recognizing the unproductive nature of that expression and instead giving myself permission do things badly just so I can get things done.
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Originally Posted by Kiddo
Do you think INJs are especially prone to this "disorder"?
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I don't know. I do know that back on the INFPgc forum when I started a thread about perfectionism, Wandering (another mistyped INFJ) was the only person who seemed to resonate with my expression.
I also know that in reading about INXJ's, stress, and eruption of inferior Se, it is apparently typical for us to feel out of control of the details in our life and to try to deal with that feeling of inadequacy by taking an obsessive approach to managing those details. That could translate as perfectionism, I suppose.
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Originally Posted by GZA
Why would INJ's be especially prone to this... is it an Ni thing?
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Well, it may have some connection to inferior Se as mentioned above.
However, my sense is that at least in me it's also related to Fe. I care very much about meeting people's expectations. I want so badly not to fall short of those expectations that I will exert tremendous effort trying to cover every possible place where I could fail, usually resulting in putting forth an effort that is much greater than is actually required for the task. My attitude that any undertaking requires this enormous amount of effort in order not to be judged as failing often overwhelms me before I've even begun and I choose instead to remain inactive or downgrade to tasks likely far below my actual ability.
Oh, and I also do the self-deprecation. I believe it is a coping mechanism to try to lower expectations so that the hurdle I have to leap over in order not to meet with judgement of failure is not so high.