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faith · 06-06-2007, 07:34 PM

I like INTJs. My brother is INTJ and I adore him. I enjoy the INTJs here and on INTPC.

My mom is ISFJ, and she thinks my brother is amazing, brilliant, insightful, witty, adorable, etc. (Yeah, sometimes I'm a bit envious because he's her baby...)

That's funny about "Valentine's day is really about death." I can see my brother saying that. It wouldn't piss me off; it'd make me laugh because it's cute in a sort of nerdishly defiant way.

I do think that some of the things he's said in the past were very sad--things like you describe about not having friends and not wanting them. (He's not like that now.) It's sad because he obviously did need friends. He needed approval of people he cares about and admires; he needed their intelligent discussion; he needed to learn how to act appropriately in social situations so he could use those situations to his advantage; he needed to become a whole person and develop all sides of himself--not just the ones that come easily.

Of course, it's not very nice to tell someone else that their thoughts and views are "sad". Rather patronizing and unkind.

06-06-2007, 07:34 PM	#9 (permalink)
faith Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: INFJ Location: Alabama Posts: 388	I like INTJs. My brother is INTJ and I adore him. I enjoy the INTJs here and on INTPC. My mom is ISFJ, and she thinks my brother is amazing, brilliant, insightful, witty, adorable, etc. (Yeah, sometimes I'm a bit envious because he's her baby...) That's funny about "Valentine's day is really about death." I can see my brother saying that. It wouldn't piss me off; it'd make me laugh because it's cute in a sort of nerdishly defiant way. I do think that some of the things he's said in the past were very sad--things like you describe about not having friends and not wanting them. (He's not like that now.) It's sad because he obviously did need friends. He needed approval of people he cares about and admires; he needed their intelligent discussion; he needed to learn how to act appropriately in social situations so he could use those situations to his advantage; he needed to become a whole person and develop all sides of himself--not just the ones that come easily. Of course, it's not very nice to tell someone else that their thoughts and views are "sad". Rather patronizing and unkind.