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Originally Posted by Dizzy
I'm afraid that you push it too much. I could get agitated when people do that and block them all together. You have to show some strength, that's far more attractive than being just overwelmed.
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I agree with you that that is definitely what I did, much to my schgrin when it backfired. Ever since I have mellowed out, let him come to me, and just been polite and casual I've seen a complete change in him. It's good to be reminded, though, as it takes a lot of work for an ENFP not to get overly excited and enthusiastic about life and all its possibilities. We often need a reality check that we are being overwhelming/smothering. Part of the zest of life that attracts people to us also is draining to others without a similar temperment.
I have been married before. I am much calmer and at peace when I have the security of the loyal committment. That's what makes him so attractive in part is that I know he will be fiercely loyal unlike my last mate. He told me once that if we end up together I will never want for reassurance from him.
Thanks for the reminder. It's a good one. I often think of myself as a horse that needs reins.