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Originally Posted by SPARKles
I dated an ISTJ for a month and a half, but things were going too fast because we have very strong chemistry and it freaked him out. Now, I wasn't rushing him. I just wanted to enjoy getting to know each other. He was very regimented in his approach at dating which I had NEVER encountered before, and that freaked me out.
HELP me not screw it up, please!
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Hi Junior,
As a dutyfulfiller, an ISTJ can feel like he obligated to stay within a relationship, he actually should get out of. Once he makes that decision he can be very stubborn and stick with this decision, I know this from my own experience. Thing is it is hard for us to communicate our feelings and level with extraverts like you. One thing that could work is writing down your feelings and hopes and ask him to reply on that.
I found out that I am far better at communicating my feelings through that. Got me through a lot of hussle with my dad. Problem is though that my mom who is quite stubborn refuses to read my thought when we are in a fight.
But this obsession for control, I don't think that is a ISTJ thing. I have no need to have total control and frankly I don't think that is a very good thing either...