To my knowledge, I don't know any other ISTJ's in my workplace, but my best friend/travel buddy (and former roommate) is another female ISTJ. I can agree that sometimes our ideas clash because we both have clear pictures in our mind of how we want things, and sometimes we approach things from a different angle. Thankfully, our thought processes are often very similar, so probably 90% of the time I know exactly what she's thinking and vice versa. It's funny because when our ideas do clash we just talk it out. We'll state the reasons (facts) for why we see it the way we do....and then we'll either reach a compromise or one will concede to the other's idea based on how logical it sounds. In certain areas of expertise, I always win, and in certain areas she will always win. I think it works out so well for us though because we are best friends...and I know I can say anything to her and she knows she can say anything to me. It's really quite nice to have a relationship be very open for communication. Plus, I think it helps that I am more layed back and calm, whereas she is extremely motivated and can be really intense sometimes. I've seen her totally lose her cool once, and it was one of the funniest things I have ever witnessed.
Anyway, as far as confirmation/appreciation goes, I think we verbally appreciate each other every so often...usually when we're having lots of fun (like when we're travelling). It also really helps that we are both going through grad school now at the same university (different programs) so we both vent to each other and say stuff like, "I'm so glad you're going through this with me, because no one else has any idea what it's like right now" and we can really empathize with each other. Overall, we both know we work hard, and we both know that we will always have each others backs...our appreciation really doesn't always need to be spoken between us, because it is evident in our actions and in the way we make room for each other despite our busy lives.
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