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Ummm...Half my post got cut off, I'll post the rest of it when I get some technical help.  |
I know if you paste the missing text in with the edit mode it works, but if you try by going to the advanced mode it cuts off again :\ I don't know what's up but this has happened to me a few times recently as well--wah! annoying!!!
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Originally Posted by proteanmix
Yeah I often redirect the conversation into being about the other person and it's barely noticed. Not going to lie, that's my favorite. It's so efficient.  |
I've actually been getting better at this, not as a method to not divulge myself because I am afraid I am not complete or being myself or something related etc., but because I am experimenting with using it as a tool to create for harmony in a social group I am in and testing it's application in various areas. Of course, as an NT, normally we would never do stuff like this, so some of this is more or less new to me in the sense of actually doing, though I am probably aware of about all of it even before I began exploring it for actual use : )
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Back to the games, Mindreader happens with family and the closest friends because that tends to get a bit intense. When you start claiming to know what people's true feelings and motives are and/or turn into Hector Projector, you'd better be close enough to them that you can kiss and makeup afterwards.
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I can only guess what Mindreader means since your post was cut off, so I'll try to understand based off of what has been said about it : )
Mindreader is actually something that bothers me the most when I'm with certain people, esp. some NFs. I guess it's cause I can see through all these games/layers they're putting up but me being more of an F now, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable by tearing them down just like that, so I just find myself not bothering with a lot of them, not putting myself up to be in a situation like that. I think I've sidetracked, but it bothers me because they are never right with me when they try this stuff, they are so off or have completely misunderstood where I am coming from but sit there and nod their heads like they have it figured out, it makes want to give them a big smack in the face and tell them to get off their high horse cause they know much less than they think they do.
And then almost evertime, they never directly ask me what makes me tick in X situation or how I feel about X and ESP "WHY" I do. They almost always seem to fill in the why which bothers me too, like this one girl said she threw me in a situation before and if I acted either X or Y, then each would mean that I am either V or W person. This so wrong, esp the options she gave. I hope I don't need to point out the absurdity, but to get to the point, because they make their own jumps about me and only ask and inquire about who I am by indirect means, they fill in the rest without me and this makes half the stuff they say, if not easily more completely off :\ I think this applies more to the Js, or at least can be more detrimental as they may act more off of these false notions than a P might.
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From what I've gleaned here, these things sound all-too familiar. I have a hard time being friends with other NFs in real life--maybe because we're playing identical roles? I like NFs, but somehow we never "meet". It's like we look at one another and both go, "Yikes! You just saw me! You're not supposed to see me yet!" and then make superhuman efforts to hide without seeming to be hiding.
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lol I know! It's sometimes fun to watch it happening when you pull two NFs together :p The last part about identity hiding is something that really bothers me as an NT in a relationship with an NF. As an NF I can be more understanding of course, but most NTs might be bothered by that
