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Originally Posted by Edahn
Member 1: I had such a rough day. It's so hard to... I try so hard, but sometimes I feel like...
All this is calculated, in my estimation, to elicit this type of response:
Member 2:  It's okay! You're a great person, blah blah blah...
That response only encourages Member 1 to continue with the pity/validation game instead of address why he or she really needs that validation. I find it pretty fascinating. It seems like it's a very SFJ thing. |
That's funny. When I've done #1 and I get #2, usually I feel let down and disappointed, sometimes even frustrated and annoyed. I want someone to say either, "Yeah, I've been through that too, it sucks, huh?" or to sit there and dig through it all with me and figure out what it all means.
Could be SFJ... but I've seen a lot of FPs (both S and N) want that sort of thing too.