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Originally Posted by Jennifer
Some S's demand a lot of tangibility. And it's exhausting sometimes for me to deal with.
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ESxJ in particular. Actually, it's only at work that that's exhausting, and usually because they've jumped to conclusions and it's hard to steer them back to the subtle shades of grey and grokking the bigger picture. I hate having to spell things out to that extreme, but it's usually necessary, ugh. It kind of feels like I'm being patronising by having to explain everything multiple times...
ISxJs are much less draining to work with - there's more internal processing and analysis happening, so there's less demand for tangibility. There's more of a mutual respect of skills.
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Originally Posted by proteanmix
My boss in an intuitive and she's the crappiest communicator I've ever worked with. She expects everyone to intuit her and extrapolate meaning and the gets upset when she's misinterpreted. Only after pressure from other people does she explicitly say what she wants and then I get to hear her rant about how thick people are. The only reason why I've gotten by working with her is because I catch on to what she's saying (sometimes she just wildly waves her hands as a substitute for a word and then I start saying what I think she means and she says yes, yes!), but you shouldn't have to play guessing games in order to understand what someone is saying. I just try to adjust my methods of communicating to who I'm with and it's not that big of a deal to me.
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Heh. My conversations with my boss tend to involve a lot of waved hands and half-finished incoherent sentences. We can both speak clearly if we need to, but brainstorming or problem solving works best for both of us if we don't get bogged down in words. I'm going to be screwed if/when I get a new boss. I've kinda become used to having someone agree with me on the basis of some mutually understood waved hands and a few key words.